11 September 2013

A boyband screwed up my IRL friendship


New year in high school. What a charming thing to think about! New friends,  feeling like a grown up and parties! I wrote down one thing which was GIRLFRIENDS FOR WHOLE LIFE leaving Best Friends Forever behind, we were grown ups then, weren't we? Damn!


So we gotta care about our friends, we tried to do it well. Everything was going so far then one day I listened to One Direction, I WAS A FAN! 
Their album was downloaded, Googled about them. I was like
OMG, Zayn Malik is half Pakistani! He has cool hair!
Harry is soooooo cute! (mind amount of"o")  Hazza bear! 
I am going to find someone like Louis Tomlinson, Noor! Please tell it to mum!

So overwhelmed with cheers, I declared I'm going to buy some CDs of this band. Or some wrist band and tees too. Rolling an eye over me, one of my friend pointed out that those boys are "gays." WHHAAA?? 

We can't call them a boyband, at least our boy section of class don't call  {or count}them a boyband. I was near crying. #girlyproblems

But heeeyyy, you don't listen to someone because the singer is a girl or a boy. You listen to his/her voice. I didn't understand why I felt bad. Maybe I started crushing on all of them, BAAAAAD thing! When I called myself a grown up, I thought maybe I am right. What if some people consider them gay? Or if they are really so what?

 No I'm not a crazy fan (I have other stuff to do than doing search about Louis's girlfriend on Google) but I actually like to listen them. No you can't judge me or them.
*All this stuff in my mind in a lecture's style*

I addressed all this stuff to my friend, she laughed. Okay, I felt humiliated. She tagged me that this girl listens to gays. Guys who listen to Justin B and 1D have no choice in music. Go get a life, blah blah. I'm glad I didn't attack a drone attack on her. She was fan of a "real man" whom I truly hate. Not because she liked that shit but.. (insert a valuable reason Areeba) 


Me VS her

Her: Don't worry, they're still gays.
Me: Of course they are. So? Can you prove {Her favourite} a real man?
Her: GUYS, SHE LISTENS TO 1D.
Me:

After that she posted it on her Facebook (& tagged me *bravely*) and whole school knew I was listening to One direction guys, she said sorry. Duh, after this, we never talked! Our girl group was screwed up. Half girls went her side, half my side. Game over!


She's not with us now. I can tell her that it was totaly useless stuff fighting over people who don't even know that we exist. Not sure if she's reading or not but girl, we shouldn't have done this!

And you (yes, you the reading one) don't start judging me. You'll be like "no I am not" but you would have given it a thought that how fool, yes we were. High school and girl stuff is always like that. Everybody have choices, I have, you have, your cat have, your friend have! 

Have you ever done something foolish for your fandom?

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48 comments:

  1. I'm sorry to hear your friendship had issues. Regardless of what it was about, those were some really hurtful things for your friend to say. :(

    Foolish things for fandom? I used to wear Justin Timberlake shirts all the time back in middle school, when N SYNC was at the top of its game. LOL. I don't know if that qualifies as "foolish," but the pics are pretty embarrassing to see now. ;)

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  2. I am sorry your friends group split up over your choice of music. It was hurtful for your friend to say that though. I used to crush on some boy bands too. :)

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  3. Wow! I cannot believe a FRIEND would say things like these.

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  4. Wow, I have never seen a friendship break because of a band! It's sad how things go in life sometimes.

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  5. Wow. I knew girls could be mean, but really? Just because you don't agree with her over a music choice? Don't worry. life somewhat gets better when you grow up. Most people realize that someone liking a bit of music you don't isn't a reason to be so cruel. Everyone has a right to like different types of music. That isn't a reason to degrade someone or to ruin their reputation or a friendship over. You have a right to your opinion just like she has a right to hers. Neither is Right nor wrong, they are just that..an opinion that you both have a right to own.

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  6. One day, you will look back at this and laugh. I hope your friend reads this and realizes how silly it was to ..... well ,.... be so silly.

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  7. Thank you for sharing this.
    Too bad relationships can be broken for such reason.

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  8. That's high school for you. Girls and drama. I was never one of those. She was not taught respect. You never "pick" on or humiliate your friends.
    Like who you want.
    I'm old enough to be your mother and I like 1D, so there :p to your used to be friend.

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  9. Sorry you are having issues :(

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  10. Sorry you're friendship ended over something so trivial.

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  11. High school is a really tough age... and it sounds like the best thing for you to do is to find some new friends, try to be the "bigger person" and remember that usually "what goes around comes around". Be true to yourself and most likely, you later on may see them receiving similar treatment in some situation to what they gave you.

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  12. Aww I'm sorry to hear about your friendship situation. I remember lots of drama over simple disagreements just because people want to be mean and hateful for no reason. You are so cool and better off without these "friends" anyway.

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  13. Aw the drama that's called High School. You fight with your friends, you break up but you eventually get back together. Well at least some of you do. If she's a real friend she'll be back.

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  14. Ohhh bummer. But yes, girls are the worst for useless, pointless fighting!
    My BEST friend and I had a falling out right after my wedding. I decided that I didn't need her BS anymore and called it quits. I don't know how you can just decide after twenty odd years that a friendship is over. But I did. A few months went by and finally her birthday came around and I ended up messaging her a happy birthday. She said she missed me. And now, we both have a better understanding of the other- and we are still best friends. So- these things certainly happen. And if it was over 1D.. I'm sure you two can get over it. So silly, so petty!
    I hope she sees your post and agrees that you were both silly and you become friends again!

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  15. It's sad, but sadly, that's high school! I laugh when I think about the things I considered serious issues in high school. Thank goodness most of us grow up and realize there are more important things in the world.

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  16. High School drama...who needs it. The one thing I do know is that none of this will matter in a few short years. The most important thing you can do for yourself is live life for now and your future and not for what happened in the past. Learn from the past but don't try and re-live it.

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  17. :( that's high school ... good times and bad times. A fun and hard place!
    I had loads of trouble, with friends and teachers. I was in class A (considered as the serious, smart, kids class) but all my best friends were in class F (considered the total opposite!) It was war between the 2 classes. One day class F (my freinds) set class A's room on fire. Being head girl and freinds with the troubler makes I got the blame. Loads of detention. Then I got in a fight with the so called friends because doing what they did they knew that I would get in trouble... I got expelled and so did they. We hated each other after that. Funny thing was we all ended up in the same school the next year!
    Keep your chin up and make the most of the good times! :)
    Take care
    x
    Bel
    b-by-bel.blogspot.com
    PS: just added you to bloglovin and put your button on my blog. Feel free to do the same if you wish!

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  18. hm. surely it is not worth fighting over a band... hope you can still sort out your friendship!

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  19. I was a Hanson fan back in middle/high school (I'm older than you, lol), so I understand getting a lot of crap for the stuff you like. They were really popular, then all of a sudden everyone hated them. Not sure why, because I still like them! It's about the music, and about what YOU like, so who cares what anyone else thinks? That being said, I agree with the above comment... Fighting over a band is not worth losing a friendship! Hope you can still mend things!

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  20. I never did anything crazy in the name of fandom, but I think all girls have their "boyband" years. When I was really little I loved Hanson, then later I was a big N'SYNC fan.

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  21. I can't say that I have done anything foolish from fandom but I am a fan of many. I am sure I get on other peoples nerves about those that I adore but it is my choice, my life and I am not hurting anyone. People are mean and selfish sometimes it is ok that you don't talk to her. What did you lose from that really?

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  22. Sorry your friendship suffered :( Maybe you can work it out still, there's always a chance! Could have just been a really bad day for the both of you

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  23. Sorry your friendship ended on such a minor detail. Hopefully you will find other friends that can move on pass their differences.

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  24. This reminds me of my days loving New Kids on the Block when I was in eighth grade.

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  25. Don't ever apologise for liking the things you like, no one can make you feel bad about it! I'm not a crazy fan but I love One Direction, I'm going to their concert at the end of this month !!!!! WOOOOOOHOOOOO!

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  26. I'm sorry to hear your friendship issues... At least you are not alone and she is also not alone. I mean, there are still friends around you. Just stand up to what you feel is right but don't let other people down just like she did to you.

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  27. back in the day (1990 or so) I had a sign on my door that people who didn't like NKOTB couldn't enter my room. One friend didn't like them. Hmm..

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  28. If someone would end a friendship over the music that you listen to, you are better off without them!

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  29. Oh the memories of me being in high school! In 5 years you will have completely forget all of this, promise!

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  30. oh how i miss being in school... but I don't miss the drama (I was the nerd everyone picked on because I watched Anime). If people are gonna be like that they don't need to be a part of your life at all. I'm sure you have friends who don't judge you for anything you do and love you. Stick with them!!

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  31. Sorry to hear that! Hope that you can be friends again.

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  32. This was very interesting and enlightening.

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  33. I've lost friends over really stupid reasons before, mostly because I'm too stubborn to admit my shortcomings. It sucks.

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  34. Sorry to hear that! Sometimes is better, best friends can discuss but never give up!
    A big hug sweetie!

    Lucia Gallego Blog

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  35. Wow. She said some mean things. You all have the right to your own opinions. I don't understand why she had to say the things she did.

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  36. Your REAL friends will stick with you no matter what music you listen to! I'm sorry you had to go through this, but don't let it get you down too much.

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  37. Sorry you're going to this. But hey, at least you got an interesting story out of it!

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  38. Sorry that your friendship broke up over music, but remember, that real friendships and friends will stick together no matter what. Everything, including friendships get easier after high school :)

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  39. So cute, both of you. MashaAllah. :)

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  40. Ugh! I hate when people do things like that. :(

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  41. Maybe she wasn't that good friend? How can a good friend judge you about the music you listen? It's.... at least weird!
    Or maybe I'm only too old to remember when it happened to me too?? LOL
    MammaNene @ SergerPepper

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  42. Sorry you're friendship ended over something so trivial, but if this is a good reason for her, then this wasn't a close friendship.

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  43. Oh no! That's not fair to you. But honestly, I did enjoy the story. You are a great writer. There was a lot of heart and humor in this piece. Great job!

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  44. Girl drama sucks! Sorry that happened to you!

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  45. I was a backstreet boys nut back in school - but it was actually the thing that brought me and my bestie closer :)

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  46. Wow, that stinks. It will pass though . . .

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  47. Girl drama is never fun. Sorry about your experience. The boy band from our generation was New Edition and New Kids on the Block.

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